News & Notes This Week

Effectively Parenting Teens: Leading by Example (Huffington Post)
Shamed – A Documentary (Jessica Mockett)
How YOU can help prevent child trafficking (Washington Times)
More churches offer counseling for sex addiction (KEPRTV.com)
Arkansas woman admits guilt in sex trafficking ring (kait8.com)
Good parenting ‘matters more than a good school’ (The Telegraph)
Japan’s child porn addiction (The Independent)
Does your child know he or she has an enemy? (Laura Gallier)
Thoughtful Parenting: The importance of the family dinner (Steamboat Today)
Anti-Cosmo Mission (Nicole Weider)

News & Notes This Week

A Pastor’s Struggle With Sex and Porn Addiction (Huffington Post)
Sex addiction experts meet in S.A. (KSAT News)
ADDICTED: Aussie porn addicts watch porn ‘five hours a day’ (Herald Sun)
Parenting styles often colored by our own childhoods (Washington Post)
‘Sexting’ teens more likely to have actual sex, according to study (Deseret News)
Human trafficking discussion warns, ‘It does happen here’ (The Gazette)
Florida man convicted of sex trafficking for pimping 14-year-old girl in New Orleans area (The Times-Picayune)
The ‘Butner Study’ Redux: A Report of the Incidence of Hands-on Child Victimization by Child Pornography Offenders (CA K.I.D.S Coalition)
Economics 101: Porn creates demand, trafficking supplies the product (Baptist Standard)

EpicParent’s New eBook ‘Sex, Lust, & XXX’

EpicParent.tv is a friend of ours in ministry.  Founder Chris Spradlin is a dad who is all about “honest, on the edge, creative parenting.”  In his new eBook, Sex, Lust, & XXX you get just that.  Chris is gut-level honest about his own history and struggles, and he is not kidding around when he exhorts parents to really, truly go to war for their kids–

Chris writes, “It is our job–no, it is our great privilege–to guard, surround, protect, stand up for, and fight for our kids’ hearts.  Throughout this ebook, I’m going to share with you expansions on stories and ideas that I’ve written during the last couple of years. I am passionate about helping parents just like you cultivate purity in your family–even in this sex-saturated world.”

The ebook is absolutely free and holds nothing back.  The content ranges from media to the dreaded sex talk… make that talks… plural.  You can visit EpicParent.tv to download a free copy, and on your way you can check out this video from Spradlin’s son, Cole giving advice on how to follow-up with your kids after you begin talking to them about sex:

Notes From the Road (Purity Is a Struggle Everywhere)

We have had a busy and rewarding past week! Our team has traveled from a school in Ohio, to a church in North Carolina, to a church in Texas, to a country club in California.  We’ve interacted with parents, pastors, church leaders, women, men, 20 year olds to 80 year olds, law enforcement, and business professionals.

At Miami Valley Christian Academy, our Vice President, Noel Bouche and Director of Parenting Ministry, Dan Martin talked about s-e-x with parents and school officials.  They shared Biblical foundations and God’s compelling story and design of sex. Partnering with Covenant Eyes, they helped families put systems in place to navigate the ever-changing world of technology and the internet.

In North Carolina, Dave Brown, our Director of Counseling and Support, spoke at the Band of Brothers men’s conference for the International Pentecostal Holiness Church. Purity is not automatic for pastors and church leaders.  These courageous saints have to pursue purity like anyone else, with the hope of Christ and leading of the Spirit.  Dave shared with these men some equipment for the battle.

In Texas, we had the privilege to partner with Traffick Stop an initiative to educate, advocate, and engage people on the issues of human trafficking. Tomi Grover, founder of Traffick Stop, and Noel met with East Texas area men and women, pastors, law enforcement, and advocates to discuss the church’s response to the prevalence of sex trafficking, as well as the correlations to pornography, and the normalization of sexual exploitation and objectification.

Finally, Noel finishes our long week of traveling by touching down in Orange County tonight to bring the Word to the workplace!  The marketplace is arguably one of the most dangerous places for a man or woman of God on a pilgrimage of purity.  Business can take us miles away from home where secrets can creep and thrive, work can make us tired and susceptible to temptation, the office is often a cesspool of the secular and over-sexualized.  Men and women attending the Christian Leadership Business Forum will be strengthened in their resolve to pursue purity even during the nine to five daily grind.

Whew! It’s been a whirlwind, but a valuable thing we are reminded of this week: Folks, purity is a struggle everywhere — whether in Ohio or California, in school or in the office.  Be encouraged, you are not the only one battling.  You are not the only one with questions.  You are not the only one to act out in doubt that God’s design is actually best.  You are not the only one who has been hurt.  Our God sees.  And He is touching hearts and lives, healing wounds, redeeming impurities, setting His people on a trajectory of freedom and justice.  It has been truly humbling to be a part of His reach these past few days.  May His truth ripple out and multiply fruit in many lives– maybe even yours!

Let us know how we can encourage you! And hey, knowing that we’ll go just about anywhere, let us know if your church, or school, or fill-in-the-blank could use some of our resources and teachings at your next event.

What Are Your Kids Posting Online?

pureHOPE’s Dan Martin explains why parents need to talk with their kids about what they are posting about themselves online.  The short answer: because most of the text and photos they post are permanent.  Really.

Why Your Family Needs a Tech Basket

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Technology provides our families more opportunities than ever before; it can also open the door to major problems.  pureHOPE Dallas Advisory Board member Rhett Smith explains how a tech basket can help your family create boundaries and navigate the challenges.

Why “THE Sex Talk” is the Wrong Approach

In this 5-minute segment from a recent purePARENTING seminar, pureHOPE’s Dan Martin explains why a one-time sex talk doesn’t work, and why equipping your kids for purity requires diligence, authenticity, and effective use of teachable moments.

“It’s not the one-time talk.  It’s an ongoing, life-long, process of speaking truth in love.”  Dan Martin

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