Stating the Obvious


by Noel Bouché

I’m having one of those days.  You know, one of those days when, for whatever reason, your tolerance for pretense, apathy, insincerity, superficiality, ignorance, and indifference is particularly low.  One of those days when you just want to, well, call a pole a pole.

So here goes.

Porn is evil.  It is prostitution, it is sex trafficking, and it exploits, it demeans, it corrodes, it poisons, and it is everywhere.  Including in your home.  Do something about it.

Sex is sacred.  God created it, blessed it, and speaks about it with a holy frankness and candor throughout Scripture.  You should too, and so should your pastor.

Marriage is beautiful.  Honor it, celebrate it, protect it, enjoy it, and fight for it.  Today.  The opportunity to do so will be there if you look for it.

Children and teens are being assaulted.  Pimps and traffickers have access to them 24/7. Especially the pimps and traffickers who moonlight as media executives.  Wake up and lead these beautiful young people to Jesus, who gave everything for them.

There.  Just had to unload that.  No footnotes, no citations, no references.  Thanks for listening.  Peace out.

Noel Bouché serves as Vice President of pureHOPE.  If you would like more straight-forward, no-poles-barred talk in 140 characters or less, you can follow him on Twitter @noelbouche.  


Fighting For Marriage

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In this inspiring four-minute video by Elevation Church, pureHOPE Charlotte Advisory Board members Chris and Sandra Pollard share their journey from bondage, betrayal, and distrust to hope, healing, and intimacy.  Their story highlights the abundance of grace and mercy that God readily pours out upon couples who, like the Pollards, choose prayer, repentance, forgiveness, and resolve to fight for their marriage instead of just fighting in their marriage.

“It took getting me into all those closets, and into all those things that I had hidden, and just exposing them to the light of the Lord.”  Chris Pollard

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Telling the Story

by David Schrock, M.Div.

For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name… Isaiah 54:5

And in that day, declares the Lord, you will call Me “My Husband”… Hosea 2:16

…”Come, I will show you the Bride, the wife of the Lamb.” Revelation 21:9

Everyone knows that sex sells, but not everyone is equally well informed that sex also tells.   Indeed, sex–as God intended it–tells the story of the Triune God who, though different from us, desires to be united with us.

Amazingly, God has ordained that within the matrix of marriage, covenant partners are privy to the delicacies of God’s unconditional, everlasting, and all-consuming love.  By divine design, marital love between a man and a woman is analogous to God’s love for His people, so that all those who participate in this blessed union of souls find a flesh and blood illustration of God’s lovingkindness and the gospel of Jesus Christ.  The result is that within marriage, sex uniquely discloses an epic of God’s sacrificial love and covenantal faithfulness. Continue reading

As Christ Loved the Church

by Noel Bouché

I saw heaven opened, and behold, a white horse, and He who sat on it is called Faithful and True.  Revelation 19:11

It is written that we husbands are to love our wives “just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).  We read this verse and meditate on it at just about every wedding we attend.  Yet this eloquent description of the archetypal marriage begs the question: “What does it mean to give myself up for my wife?”  While we must follow Christ’s example and be ready to face death literally for our loved ones, most of us will not be confronted with the decision to die a substitutionary death for our wives.  But physical death was not the only way Jesus gave himself up.

In the Revelation, John saw the bridegroom returning, and He was called according to two primary attributes – faithfulness and truth.  Imagine this!  John is gazing upon the “Mighty God” and the “Prince of Peace” (Isaiah 9:6), the One to whom all praise is due, and yet the name He chooses to go by reflects His attachment and commitment to us, whose frames are “but dust” (Psalm 103:14).  I must ask myself if I’m defining myself in the same manner as my Lord–as a faithful and true bridegroom–or am I defining myself primarily by my professional title, by my accomplishments, or by my net worth?  Am I “my beloved’s”?  Or am I mine? Continue reading

The Virtue of Justice

This month’s edition of PRISM Magazine focuses on male sexuality and features an article by pureHOPE’s Noel Bouché titled The Virtue of Justice: Why Sexual Purity is Central to a Just Life.  The article discusses the nature of justice, how it is related to the sexual union, and why the pursuit of sexual purity is a fundamental first step in doing justice and loving others in this pornified age.  It is a message that is at the heart of our pureJUSTICE program.

You can click here to view more of the issue that features articles from ministry leaders across the country who are seeking to raise up a generation of men who will reject apathy and exploitation and pursue the love and justice of God.

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Documentary: Somebody’s Daughter

Our friends at Music for the Soul have created a number of great products, all of which offer hope and encouragement to those walking through the ups and downs of life.  Somebody’s Daughter is a piece we highly recommend.

Pornography addiction is rampant, growing, and affecting lives in our churches and schools right now.  Somebody’s Daughter is a DVD/CD set that includes music videos, vignettes, nine original songs, poetry, scripture readings, and a documentary featuring individuals, including a married couple, sharing their struggles with pornography in an honest and authentic manner that provides hope and encouragement.

Click here to watch and learn more about the project, and consider sharing this resource in your church or small group to open up dialogue about what life in a pornified culture looks like, even within the walls of the church.