When Your Child Views Porn

The statistics in this infographic (click image to enlarge) demonstrate the tragic reality of the digital age: your children will be exposed to Internet porn.  It is a matter of when, not if.  Parenting in the twenty-first century means accepting this reality and equipping yourself and your kids to pursue purity in the midst of this reality.  Therein lies the hope, a hope found in the person and work of Jesus Christ (1 John 3:3).

Being equipped means being prepared to act.  If you learn that your son or daughter has viewed porn, keep in mind these principles from The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding:

  1. Control your anger.  Direct your anger toward the sin and not the child, keeping in mind the world they live in, which assaults them with sexualized content.
  2. Go after the heart, not the behavior.  Go after your child’s heart through a grace-based inquiry into feelings and motives that helps him or her grow in understanding.
  3. Keep the conversation about sex going.  Purity is a lifelong pursuit for which your kids need ongoing guidance and support.  Walk this journey with them!
  4. Examine your own heart.  You are called to model the pursuit of sexual purity for your kids.  Did you open any doors to the porn?  Did you drop the ball?  God’s grace allows you to start fresh now!
  5. Take steps to block access.  Create a culture of accountability and integrity in your home be setting appropriate boundaries, activating parental controls, installing accountability software like Covenant Eyes, and creating a tech strategy that includes openness regarding your own Internet use.
  6. Don’t give up!  Remember that you are not alone and that God is working in and through you to love, equip, and protect your kids on the winding journey of life through a perilous world (Hebrews 13:20-21).

Click here to view the full resource from CPYU, and visit their site for other great resources that will equip you to help your kids navigate the challenges they face in a sexualized and technology-driven culture.

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One thought on “When Your Child Views Porn

  1. Thanks for the reminder. Beyond porn, it is a reminder to talk with our kids about how images shape our understanding of people, and how even “clean” advertising can distort our understanding of beauty, being fully human, and bearing the image of God.

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